So you broke up with your ex and you’re heartbroken. You’re struggling to figure out where it all went wrong… and you’re thinking about what you can do to reverse your mistakes. And just as you feel like you’ve formulated a plan, you see something on social media that makes your heart sink like a rock… you find out that your ex is seeing someone else. All of a sudden an overwhelming feeling of sadness and pain consumes you… and you think that there’s nothing that you can do.
And furthermore, if he or she is seeing somebody else, there’s almost nothing you can do or say that will make them change their minds about being with you again… at least now right now. If you’ve just broken up with your ex and they’re already dating somebody else, they’re in what you call a “rebound relationship” … but don’t worry. There are a few things about a rebound relationship that you need to know about before moving forward.
1.) Rebound relationships typically don’t last.
2.) Rebound relationships are short.
3.) Rebound relationships are PASSIONATE.
So what’s the best strategy to take given the circumstances? Well, the best move right now… is to not move at all! Just WAIT. I know you’ve probably heard of the “No Contact” strategy, but in this case, you need to ALSO engage in a strict “No Ex” strategy as well. That means that you need to do whatever you can to get past these hugely emotional and negative feelings by blocking your ex out of your mind completely. I know it’s easier said than done, but here are some tips…
1. Don’t go on social media. Or at the very least, unfollow your ex.
2. Delete their contact information from your phone. This will prevent the ol’ “drunk text” or phone call.
3. Take all of the gifts and belongings at your place and put them in a box. Hide this box. Out of sight, out of mind.
4. Keep yourself pre-occupied. It’ll be easy to just sit around and mope and cry. But to truly get beyond your ex right now, you need to keep busy. Hit the gym, spend time with family, spend time with friends, etc.
Be strict about these rules and make sure you don’t deviate. Because once you do, it’s like falling back into the hole of despair again and it’ll be even more difficult to climb out. For the next month, make sure that you’re doing everything in your power to stick to these four, simple rules… and remember, this is IN ADDITION to “No Contact”.
I know things seem grim right about now, but I guarantee that if you get past this difficult phase, you will come out on the other side stronger than ever. How? Well just picture your ex once they eventually get out of that rebound relationship. Imagine them feeling that powerful sense of loss… the same kind of feeling that you’re experiencing right at this moment. At that point, who do you think they’re going to be thinking about? If you’ve been playing your cards right and listening to my advice, your ex will probably be the one contacting YOUand missing YOU.
If your ex does break up with their rebound, then this is your best chance to get your ex back for good. And the most ideal situation at this point is if they text YOU after their rebound breakup. So what do you do if your ex texts you? At that point, just do nothing.
Now what if your ex DOESN’T call your or text you?
At this point, you’ll need to find out if he or she is still with their rebound or not. But again, you’ll want to do this only after your 30 days No Contact and ONLY if you feel like you’re emotionally stable. If he or she is still in that rebound relationship, then continue engaging in no contact and continue removing all thoughts of them from your mind. But if they AREN’T in that rebound relationship, now is your chance to pounce!
So right now, 30 days have past and your ex just got out of a short rebound relationship… what do you do? At this point, what you need to do is send them one of the many text messages that I outline in my Ex Factor Guide… for this video, I’m only going to cover ONE example text message… I call this message “The Big Ask”.
You can send your text something like…
“Hey! I need a quick favour… you were always good with planning trips… any chance you could just quickly give me a hand with this trip to Scotland I have planned for this summer?”
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